Fat Sex Is Controversial?

Even before I received my book I was warned that it was controversial. I was stunned by the warning actually. It came from a long veteran of size acceptance activism. I mean, being an activist is automatically being in a controversial issue or lifestyle. If it weren't, then the issue the activist represents is already accepted by the mainstream of society, right? So, to call any area of the issue controversial by an activist in that particular field of activism signals to me that maybe the topic at hand is going into the lunatic fringes of the issue. However, with this topic of fat sex, I just could not image at the time that this could be all that controversial because the majority of people in our country (USA) are considered fat. Plus, I know that sex is not only for the minority of people. Everyone seems to be in on the act, wanting in on the act, have been in on the act, have opted out of the act, have seen the act used to sell everything from apples to cars, and so on. Sex is everywhere. But putting fat and sex together are so controversial? Please! Give me a break already.

I reviewed this excellent book here:

Fat Sex: The Naked Truth by Rebecca Jane Weinstein

I will say again: "I would most definitely recommend this book. I wish I had had it when I was about age 9 onwards to help me understand more and get hurt less in a world determined to crush me."

But what is so controversial about it? The topic itself is what I am hearing. It seems taboo to talk of fat people actually being  human and enjoying human activities, especially sexual activities. Body shaming, body judging, body mocking, and all other forms of body bullying and abuse need to stop. But, until the body bigotries stop, somehow we must find a way to live in and love our bodies as the beautiful homes we live in for a lifetime and also learn to love with our bodies in ways appropriate to our own bodies' shapes, needs, designs, design "flaws," sizes, abilities, fitness levels, challenges, or whatever our bodies are during each season of our lives.

And, I am fat, aging, mostly immobile, and with various health issues. Guess what? My body is still a wonderful home for me and deserves love from me and from those I allow into my life. And also, yeah, I'm sexy and I know it. <wiggle wiggle>